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Joe’s Letter to Tom
I wrote this note to Tom the day before he passed, knowing what was to come. It was read at his service and my handwritten copy went in the casket with him.
Tom,
How do I say goodbye to not only my brother, but my friend?
These past few years I’ve come to know you even better than when we were growing up together. I like who you are. I look up to you, and even feel a little intimidated by you. You’ve always been so sure of yourself in everything you do, while I flounder around overthinking every detail. You have a strength of character that few possess today. Your way with women, with handling a bike, your zest for life even in the hard times is not only admirable, it makes me a little jealous. You’ve been an inspiration to me. And for this, I am grateful.
Everyone, including me, is wondering, “Why did someone so good have to be burdened with such a terrible disease?” No one can adequately answer this question, though I will always try to see the good that came out of this. I know it’s there, it’s just kind of hard to see right now.
Biking will seem so empty without you in the lead to get us lost, and then found again, with your uncanny sense of knowing exactly which roads to take. And I’ll miss having your advice on any number of subjects, rambling on the way you do. Your absence will leave a void in my life that will never be filled.
I hate to see you go, but I hate even more to see you suffering and unable to live your life. You fought for a long time and had a pretty good run, all things considered. You possess a strong will which, along with Laurie’s unyielding dedication to you, enabled you to survive longer than most. We all knew this day would come sooner or later, though. Even your determination can’t overcome a constant barrage by cancer.
I hate to sound cliché, but you had a good life with a truly wonderful woman. And the two of you raised three great kids, of whom you should be proud. You’ve made a difference to all those whose lives you touched. You’re alright, man! Now it’s time for us to take everything you’ve taught us and go out and make a difference of our own. Your legacy will live on through all of us.
Though I could never hope to replace you, rest assured I will do whatever I can to help out Laurie, Sara, Matt and Ra whenever necessary.
I know I will see you again as there is no end to the soul, just the body. So I won’t say goodbye, just “See ya later, alligator.”
Joe
